Wednesday, 5 February 2014

Why is it so bad to love yourself?

Hey girls, I hope you're all well. And sorry it's been a while, technical issues, again. But, if you follow me on Twitter, Tumblr, or Instagram you'll already know, I have a new laptop meaning I should be blogging a lot more regularly.

This post is long overdue; I've mentioned it in a couple of posts previously, but to be honest I have no idea how to word this post. I feel like it's such a sensitive subject, which is actually the point of this post, that I want to make sure I get it across in the best way possible, but everytime I plan it in my head I go on a rant. So that's why I've decided to just write it and see where it goes, are you ready?

Ok so loving your body is hard, right? But hating it is so easy? Why the hell is that? Why do we see it as ok to hate ourselves, but ridiculous to love ourselves? I'm not going to put all the blame on society or the media, that's too predictable, but they do have a part to play. They make out that the photoshopped body they put in their magazines is perfect and ideal, but they forget to mention that it isn't attainable. They also point out the 'faults' people have, like cellulite, and stretchmarks, making out that it is bad to have them, but you know what? They are perfectly normal, and they are fucking beautiful, know why? It means you're human, it means you exist!

I've had discussions where I mention I like something about myself and I've been laughed at, like I'm vain and it's not natural to say that I like myself. But if I ever mention that I hate a part of my body it is taken with a pinch of salt, like it doesn't even matter. To me this is just horrible, and so sad. Last night I said something about liking who I am, and I was called cocky, now he was only joking, but that is how it is perceived in most situations. It's seen as a bad thing to like yourself and it makes it hard to be happy with who you are.
My friend asked me how I am able to like my body, and I'll be honest, I didn't really know how to answer. I do love my body, but it took me a really long time to get to that point. I've always had body issues, and used to despise looking in the mirror, but over many years, starting when I was 14, I started to appreciate my body and all it can do. It does take a really long time, and what I told her to do was just to look at herself in the mirror, in your underwear and just stare at it. Don't make any comment on it just look at it, look at every aspect of it, and become comfortable with that.

You shouldn't judge how you look because it's not important to who you are as a person, and yet we do, constantly! Your body is so much more than the outside, think about all it does on the inside. You have a heart that beats blood through your body, a brain that does amazing things, and so many more organs that help you live. You have legs so you can walk, run and jump. Arms so you can draw, write, and paint. Eyes so you can read, watch and observe. A nose to smell. Your body is amazing, and does incredibly things, so why do we judge it on what it looks like on the outside? Don't you think this is so utterly ridiculous? So what if you don't have abs, so what if you do? So what if you have bingo wings, and thick thighs, or even stick thin legs? It doesn't matter! I promise you it doesn't. It doesn't affect your ability to live, and love and laugh, so please love who you are inside and out.

I love you all, and I hope this post helped you even a little bit.

Have a beautiful day

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